Different dists for CJS and ESM are causing both to be used, leading to TypeScript problems

Issue Description

@apollo/server provides different builds for ESM and CJS. It is great to see more ESM support, but the current approach means it suffers from the Dual package hazard described in the node documentation.

To sum up the hazard: this approach makes it extremely likely that both the ESM and CJS versions will be loaded at the same time. Here is a simple example of how this can happen:

• Your project is written in ESM.
• Your project uses @nestjs/apollo. nestjs is written in commonJS and imports @apollo/server
• Your project includes a plugin for apollo, so you also import @apollo/server
• Your project will load the ESM version of apollo, and nest will load the CJS version. Meaning the plugin cannot be compatible with nest.

I strongly recommend doing everything you can to only ship a single build to node users by either:

• Dropping support for CJS altogether
• Or using the "ES module wrapper" approach. The first approach described here: https://nodejs.org/api/packages.html#dual-commonjses-module-packages. Approach 2 suggested by node does not work for TypeScript users. Here is a real world example and a test that makes sure the wrapper is kept in sync

I've provided a minimalist example of what sort of errors this causes below

Link to Reproduction

https://codesandbox.io/p/sandbox/laughing-sun-85cmy8?file=%2Fsrc%2Findex.ts%3A1%2C1

Reproduction Steps

See above